FEARS! As Rotimi Amaechi And APC Recruit Army For 2019 Elections

Mr Rotimi Amaechi, who is the Director-General, Buhari /Osinbajo Campaign Organisation has made a shocking disclosure regarding the true nature of the forthcoming elections in Nigeria.

He revealed the main contenders in the elections which many Nigerians do not know before. The Campaign DG stated that 2019 General Elections will be between the rich and the poor in the country.

Amaechi made the comment in Ilorin on Friday while inaugurating 1,872 election canvassers for the APC in Kwara State.

Amaechi, who is the minister of transportation, said, “We are gathered here today to peacefully take over power from the rich and hand over to the poor. That is what APC stands for.

“We join the poor to say we must take power from the rich. We join the poor to say enough is enough.

“The elite and the thieves have ganged-up against the APC. But they don’t have the power because they don’t have the number. The number is with the poor and the poor must rise to vote on that day.

He said, “When the former President, Chief Olusegun Obasanjo, was handing over, he left $58bn, where is the money now? How much did state governments collect? How much did the Federal Government collect? What did they do with the money?”

He said although there were big men in all political parties, “the difference between other parties and ours is that the big men in our party are all progressives. Other parties don’t care; they want to even collect what the poor is eating from them.”

In his address, the Minister of Information and Culture, Alhaji Lai Mohammed, said

the gathering was a demonstration of the people’s resolve to rescue the state from “those who have held it by the jugular, those who have pauperised our people, the pathologically-dishonest ones who govern by deceit.”

Mohammed said, “We are inaugurating an army of well-recruited, tested and trusted canvassers, who will go from house to house in each of the 1,872 polling units to tell our people why they must vote for President Muhammadu Buhari and all the candidates of the APC right here in Kwara State in the 2019 General Elections.”

He assured all the candidates of the party that they would carry the party’s flag in the 2019 elections, despite litigations.


Herdsmen Kill One, Sack Community Of 300 People LATEST NEWS Makurdi

Fulani herdsmen have sacked a community of about 300 people after killing a father of seven children in Benue State.

A community leader told our correspondent yesterday that the herdsmen bandits invaded Ukemberagya, Gaambe-Tiev in Logo local government area of the state on Christmas eve where they shot a farmer one Ioewuese Myaga on his farm.

The community leader told said that the incident occurred on the eve of Christmas.

“Some herdsmen on the eve of Christmas murdered Mr Iorwuese Myaga, a father of seven children, a resident of a settlement in Ukemberagya Gaambe-Tiev.

“He was murdered by Fulani herdsmen terrorists on his farm where he went to harvest corn.

“They ambushed and shot him at close range behind at the neck piercing his gullet through the stomach.

“His corpse was recovered on December 25, 2018, and buried at his country home Tse Ikyem, Ukemberagya Gaamne-Tiev Logo LGA Benue state.

“As at today, (Wednesday) the whole community is deserted we are all gathered at NKST Church.

“Until this gruesome murder, Mr Iowuese Myaga was a devout Christian of NKST denomination and an active member of the Tiv choir NKST Chembe consistory,” Anawah said.

It will be recalled that communities in Logo and Guma local government areas of the state were attacked from the New Year Day of 2018 till August this year.

But the Benue Police Command spokesman, Moses Yamu said he was yet to be briefed.


Nigeria, India, to deepen bilateral trade

NIGERIA and India are set to deepen non-oil exports toward boosting the bilateral trade between both countries.

Rawat Rajesh, Director, India Export Promotion Council for Handicrafts, India, disclosed this at the sensitisation for IHGF Delhi Fair – Spring 2019 on Friday in Lagos.

Rajesh said that India’s desire was to enhance its trade relationship with Africa, especially Nigeria, through promoting exports that would increase the present trade volume of $11.76 billion between both countries.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that Nigeria is India’s largest trading partner in Africa, and India is the largest buyer of Nigeria’s crude oil globally.

Rajesh said that there was a need to explore opportunities in other sectors toward enhancing trade and investment between both countries.

He said that between April and September this year, export from India to Nigeria stood at $1.35 billion, and goods exported were handicrafts, pharmaceuticals, ceramic, fabrics, iron and steel, chemical and aluminium.

According to him, India’s export of handicrafts stands at $60.92 million in 2017, signifying a 21.27 per cent growth from $50.23 per cent recorded in 2016.

He said that both countries could leverage on their huge population to transfer knowledge, build the capacity of their citizens in the handicrafts sector to increase production, efficiency, employment and global competitiveness.

Rajesh noted that the IHGF Delhi Fair – Spring 2019, which would hold from Feb. 18 to 22 in Delhi, India, was a platform that would connect Indian exporters in the home, lifestyle, fashion and textile products with Nigerian businesses.

According to him, opening Indian markets to Nigeria and building trust among businesses has the potential to enhance handicrafts trade between both countries from its present $60 million to $100 million within five years.

Also, Mr Gbolahan Olaniyi, President, African Association of Interior Designers, said that the fair would provide a platform for Nigerian businesses to explore the latest designs, learn the expertise and replicate it locally.

Olaniyi said that leveraging the strategic partnership and economic relationship with a country like India, had the potential to deepen Nigeria’s trade and quest for economic diversification.

Miss Bunmi Aliu, Trade Promotion Manager, Clarion Event, said that both countries could leverage on their symbiotic relationship to create new markets in their manufacturing and Small and Medium Size Entreprises (SMEs) sub-sectors.

She said that the Nigerian handicrafts market was still growing and open to exploring more opportunities that would bridge the industry gaps and enhance Nigeria’s retail trade put at $128 billion in 2017.


Court dismisses suit seeking to sack Bagudu as Kebbi governor

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The Court of Appeal in Abuja, on Monday, dismissed a legal action seeking the removal of governor Atiku Bagudu of Kebbi state from office on the allegation that he was not qualified to hold the governorship position. Justice Olabisi Ige, who read the lead judgment of a three-man panel of Justice of the Court of […]

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Disappointment: What you’re expecting to see not now.


Brain Tracy

1 Chapter

Change Your Thinking

There is a law in psychology that if you form a picture in your mind of what you would like to be, and you keep and hold that picture there long enough, you will soon become exactly as you have been thinking.

—William James

Once upon a time there was a woman, about 30 years old, married with two children. Like many people, she had grown up in a home where she was constantly criticized and often treated unfairly by her parents. As a result, she developed deep feelings of inferiority and low self-esteem. She was negative and fearful, and had no confi- dence at all. She was shy and self-effacing, and did not consider herself to be particularly valuable or worthwhile. She felt that she was not really talented at anything.

One day, as she was driving to the store, another car went through a red light and smashed into her.When she awoke, she was in the hospital with a mild concussion and complete memory loss. She could still speak, but she had no recollection of any part of her past life. She was a total amnesiac.

At first, the doctors thought it would be temporary. But weeks passed and no trace of her memory returned. Her husband and children visited her daily, but she did not know them. This was such an unusual case that other doctors and specialists came to visit her as well, to test her and ask her questions about her condition.




Eventually, she went home, her memory a complete blank. Deter- mined to understand what had happened to her, she began reading medical textbooks and studying in the specialized area of amnesia and memory loss. She met and spoke with specialists in this field. Eventually she wrote a paper on her condition. Not long afterward, she was invited to address a medical convention to deliver her pa- per, answer questions about her amnesia, and share her experiences and ideas on neurological functioning.

During this period, something amazing happened. She became a new person completely. All the attention in the hospital and afterward made her feel valuable, important, and truly loved by her family. The attention and acclaim she received from members of the med- ical profession built her self-esteem and self-respect even higher. She became a genuinely positive, confident, outgoing woman, highly articulate, well informed, and very much in demand as a speaker and authority in the medical profession.

All memory of her negative childhood had been wiped out. Her feelings of inferiority were wiped out as well. She became a new person. She changed her thinking and changed her life.


The Scottish philosopher David Hume was the first to propose the idea of the tabula rasa or blank slate.This theory says that each per- son comes into the world with no thoughts or ideas at all, and everything that a person thinks and feels is learned from infancy on- ward. It is as though the child’s mind is a blank slate that every passing person and experience leaves a mark on.The adult becomes the sum total of everything he or she learns, feels, and experiences growing up. What the adult does and becomes later is the result of this early conditioning. As Aristotle wrote, “Whatever is impressed is expressed.”

Perhaps the greatest breakthrough in the field of human poten- tial in the twentieth century was the discovery of the self-concept. This is the idea that each person develops a bundle of beliefs re- garding oneself, starting at birth. Your self-concept then becomes

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the master program of your subconscious computer, determining everything you think, say, feel, and do. For this reason, all change in your outer life begins with a change in your self-concept, with a change in the way you think and feel about yourself and your world. The child is born with no self-concept at all. Every idea, opin- ion, feeling, attitude, or value you have as an adult you learned from childhood. Everything you are today is the result of an idea or im- pression you took in and accepted as true.When you believe some- thing to be true, it becomes true for you, whatever the fact may be. “You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.”


If you were raised by parents who continually told you what a good person you were, who loved you, encouraged you, supported you, and believed in you, no matter what you did or didn’t do, you would grow up with the belief that you were a good and valuable person. By the age of three, this belief would lock in and become a funda- mental part of the way you view yourself in relation to your world. Thereafter, no matter what happens to you, you would hold to this belief. It would become your reality.

If you were raised by parents who did not know how powerful their words and behaviors could be in shaping your personality, they could very easily have used destructive criticism, disapproval, and physical or emotional punishment to discipline or control you. When a child is continually criticized at an early age, he soon con- cludes that there is something wrong with him. He doesn’t under- stand why it is that he is being criticized or punished, but he assumes that his parents know the truth about him, and that he de- serves it. He begins to feel that he is not valuable or lovable. He is not worth very much. He must therefore be worthless.

Almost all personality problems in adolescence and adult- hood are rooted in what psychologists refer to as love withheld. The child needs love like roses need rain. When children feel unloved, they feel unsafe and insecure.They think, “I’m not good enough.” They begin to engage in compensatory behaviors to make up for this inner anxiety. This sense of love deprivation is manifested in misbehavior, personality problems, bursts of anger,


depression, hopelessness, lack of ambition, and problems with people and relationships.


The child is born with no fears, except those of falling and loud noises. All other fears have to be taught to the child as he or she grows up.

The two major fears we all develop are the fear of failure or loss and the fear of criticism or rejection.We begin to learn the fear of fail- ure if we are continually criticized and punished when we try some- thing new or different. We are shouted at and told, “No! Get away from there! Stop that! Put that down!” Physical punishment and the withholding of love, possibilities that scare us and make us feel inse- cure, often accompany these shouts and criticisms.

We soon begin to believe that we are too small, too weak, in- competent, inadequate, and incapable of doing anything new or dif- ferent. We express this feeling with the words, “I can’t, I can’t, I can’t.”Whenever we think about doing something new or challeng- ing, we automatically respond with feelings of fear, trembling, and a churning stomach. We react exactly as if we are afraid of getting a spanking.We say, “I can’t” over and over.

The fear of failure is the primary reason for failure in adult life. As the result of destructive criticism in childhood, we hold our- selves back as adults. We sell ourselves short. We quit before we even try the first time. Instead of using our amazing minds to fig- ure out how to get what we want, we use our reasoning ability to create reasons why we can’t, and why the things we want are not possible for us.


The second major fear that holds us back, undermines our confi- dence, and destroys our desire for a happy life is the fear of rejec- tion, and its expression, criticism. This emotion is learned in early childhood as the result of our parents expressing disapproval of us whenever we do something they don’t like, or don’t do some- thing that they expect. As a result of our displeasing them, they

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become angry and withdraw the love and approval we need so much as children.

The fear of being unloved and alone is so traumatic for a child that she soon conforms her behavior to do whatever she thinks her parents will approve of. She loses her spontaneity and uniqueness. She begins to think, “I have to! I have to! I have to!” She concludes, “I have to do whatever Mommy and Daddy want me to, or they won’t love me, and I’ll be all alone!”


As an adult, a child raised with what is called “conditional love” (as opposed to unconditional love, the greatest gift one person can give to another) becomes hypersensitive to the opinions of others. In its extreme form, he cannot do anything if there is the slightest chance that someone else may not approve. He projects his childhood rela- tionship with his parents onto the important people in his adult life—spouse, boss, relatives, friends, authority figures—and tries desperately to earn their approval, or at least not lose it.

The fears of failure and rejection, caused by destructive criti- cism in early childhood, are the root causes of most of our unhap- piness and anxiety as adults. We feel, “I can’t!” or “I have to!” continually.The worst feeling is when we feel, “I can’t, but I have to!” or “I have to, but I can’t!”

We want to do something, but we are afraid of failure or loss, or if we are not afraid of loss, we are afraid of disapproval. We want to do something to improve our lives, at work or at home, but we are afraid that we may fail, or that someone else may criti- cize us, or both.

For most people, their fears govern their lives. Everything they do is organized around avoiding failure or criticism. They think continually about playing it safe, rather than striving for their goals. They seek security rather than opportunity.


The author Arthur Gordon once approached Thomas J.Watson Sr., the founder of IBM, and asked him how he could succeed faster as


a writer.Thomas J.Watson, one of the giants of American business, replied with these profound words: “If you want to be successful faster, you must double your rate of failure. Success lies on the far side of failure.”

The fact is that the more you have already failed, the more likely it is you are on the verge of great success.Your failures have pre- pared you to succeed.This is why a streak of good luck seems to fol- low a streak of bad luck. When in doubt, “double your rate of failure.”The more things you try, the more likely you are to triumph. You overcome your fears only by doing the thing you fear until the fear has no more control over you.


Everything you know about yourself, all your beliefs, are recorded on the hard drive of your personality, in your self-concept. Your self-concept precedes and predicts your levels of performance and effectiveness in everything you do. Because of the law of correspon- dence, you always behave on the outside in a manner consistent with your self-concept on the inside. All improvement in your life therefore begins with an improvement in your self-concept.

You have an overall self-concept that is made up of all your be- liefs about yourself and your abilities. This bundle of beliefs in- cludes all the experiences, decisions, successes, failures, ideas, information, emotions, and opinions of your life up to now. This general self-concept determines how and what you think and feel about yourself, and measures how well you are doing in general.


You have a series of “mini-self-concepts” as well.These mini-self- concepts combine to make up your overall self-concept.You have a self-concept for every area of your life that you consider important. This mini-self-concept determines how you think, feel, and perform in that area.

For example, you have a self-concept for how healthy and fit you are, and how much you eat or exercise.You have a self-concept

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for how likable and popular you are with others, especially with members of the opposite sex.You have a self-concept for what kind of a spouse or parent you are, for how good a friend you are to your friends, how smart you are, and how well you learn.You have a self- concept for every sport you play, and for every activity you engage in, including how well you drive your car.

You have a self-concept for how well you do your work, and for how well you do each part of your work. You have a self- concept for how much money you make and how well you save and invest it. This is a critical area. The fact is that you can never earn much more or less than your self-concept level of income. If you want to make more money, you have to change your beliefs about yourself relative to income and money.This is an important part of this book.


In every case, if you want to change your performance and your results in any area of your life, you have to change your self- concept—or your beliefs about yourself—for that area. Fortu- nately, your beliefs are largely subjective. They are not always based on facts. Instead, they are based largely on information you have taken in and accepted as true, sometimes with very little evi- dence or proof.

The very worst beliefs you can have are self-limiting beliefs of any kind. These are beliefs about yourself that cause you to feel some- how limited or deficient in a particular area. These beliefs are sel- dom true, but if you accept them as valid estimates of your ability, they become true for you, exactly as if they were correct.

The starting point of unlocking your potential, and accomplish- ing more than you ever have before, is for you to challenge your self- limiting beliefs. You begin this process of freeing yourself from self-limiting beliefs by imagining that, whatever they are, they are completely untrue. Imagine for the moment that you have no limi- tations on your abilities at all. Imagine that you could be, do, or have anything you really wanted in life. Imagine that your potential is unlimited in any way.


For example, imagine that you could be earning twice as much as you are earning today. Imagine that you could be living in a bigger house, driving a better car, and enjoying a more ex- pensive lifestyle.

Imagine that you have the ability to be one of the top people in your field. Imagine that you are one of the most popular, powerful, and persuasive personalities in your social and business world. Imagine that you are calm, confident, and unafraid of anything. Imagine that you could set and achieve any goal you put your mind to. This is how you begin changing your thinking and changing your life.

The starting point of eliminating your fears, and releasing your potential, is to reprogram your mental hard drive with new, positive, constructive, and courageous beliefs about yourself and your future. Throughout this book, you will learn how to do this.


Your self-concept has three parts, like a pie divided into three wedges. Each is linked with each of the others. All three elements together make up your personality.They largely determine what you think, feel, and do, and everything that happens to you.

Your self-ideal is the first part of your personality and your self- concept.Your self-ideal is made up of all of your hopes, dreams, visions, and ideals.Your self-ideal is composed of the virtues, val- ues, and qualities that you most admire in yourself and others. Your self-ideal is the person you would most like to become, if you could be a perfect person in every way. These ideals guide and shape your behavior.

Great men and women, leaders, and people of character are very clear about their values, visions, and ideals. They know who they are and what they believe in.They set high standards for them- selves, and they don’t compromise those standards. They are men and women that others can look up to and depend on.They are def- inite and distinct in their interactions with others. In everything they do, they strive to live up to their ideals.

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The second part of your self-concept is your self-image. This is the way you see yourself and think about yourself. It is often called your “inner mirror.” It is where you look internally to see how you should behave in a particular situation. Because of the power of your self-image, you always perform on the outside consistent with the picture you have of yourself on the inside.

The discovery of the self-image, pioneered by Maxwell Maltz, is a major breakthrough in understanding human performance and ef- fectiveness. By visualizing and imagining yourself performing at your best in an upcoming situation, you send a message to your subcon- scious mind.Your subconscious mind accepts this message as a com- mand, and then coordinates your thoughts, words, and actions so that they fit a pattern consistent with the picture you created.

All improvement in your life begins with an improvement in your mental pictures.Your internal images influence your emotions, your behaviors, your attitudes, and even the way other people re- spond to you. The development of a positive self-image is a vital part of changing your thinking and changing your life.


The third part of your self-concept is your self-esteem. This is the emotional component of your personality, and is the most impor- tant factor in determining how you think, feel, and behave. Your level of self-esteem largely determines much of what happens to you in life.

Your self-esteem is best defined as how much you like yourself. The more you like yourself, the better you perform at anything you attempt. And by the law of reversibility, the better you perform, the more you like yourself.

Your self-esteem is the “reactor core” of your personality. It is the energy source that determines your levels of confidence and enthusiasm. The more you like yourself, the higher will be the standards you will set for yourself.The more you like yourself, the bigger the goals you will set for yourself and the longer you will


persist in achieving them. People with high self-esteem are virtu- ally unstoppable.

Your level of self-esteem determines the quality of your relation- ships with others.The more you like and respect yourself, the more you like and respect others and the better they feel toward you. In your business life and career, your personal level of self-esteem will be the critical factor that determines whether or not people will buy from you, hire you, enter into business dealings with you, and even lend you money.

The better your self-esteem, the better you will be as a spouse and parent. High self-esteem parents raise high self-esteem chil- dren. These children develop high levels of self-confidence and as- sociate with other high self-esteem children. High self-esteem homes are characterized by love, laughter, and happiness for every- one who lives there.


Your level of self-esteem is largely determined by how closely your self-image—your current performance and behavior—matches your self-ideal—your picture of how you would perform if you were at your very best.You are always comparing your actual performance with your ideal performance at an unconscious level.Whenever you feel that you are living up to your very best, you feel terrific about yourself.Your self-esteem soars.You feel happy and fulfilled.

Whenever you do or say something that is not in keeping with your ideals or the best of which you feel you are capable, your self- esteem goes down.Whenever there is a wide separation between the person you are in the moment and the ideal person you want very much to be in the future, you feel badly about yourself.This is why you get angry with yourself whenever you fail at something, or be- have badly in a situation with other people.Your self-ideal continu- ally reminds you of how much better a person you can be.


Psychologists agree today that your self-esteem lies at the core of your self-concept and your personality. Every improvement in any

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part of your personality or performance boosts your self-esteem, and causes you to like and respect yourself even more. The more you like yourself, the better will be your self-image and subsequent performance, and the faster you will move toward becoming more like your self-ideal.

The best news of all is that there is an inverse relationship between your level of self-esteem and your fears of failure and rejection. The more you like yourself, the less you fear failure. The more you like yourself, the less concerned you are with the opinions of others, and the less you fear criticism. The more you like yourself, the more you make your decisions based on your own goals and standards, and the less you care what others think or say.


Just as you become what you think about, you also become what you say to yourself.The most powerful words you can repeat to yourself, especially if you are feeling tense or uneasy about an upcoming event, are the words, “I like myself! I like myself! I like myself!”

Whenever you say, “I like myself!” your fears diminish and your courage increases. The words, “I like myself!” are so powerful and positive that they are immediately accepted by your subconscious mind as a command. They instantly affect your thoughts, feelings, and attitudes.Your body language immediately improves, and you stand straighter.Your face becomes more positive and cheerful.Your tone of voice becomes stronger and more confident.You feel better about yourself, and as a result, you treat everyone around you in a warmer, friendlier way.

You begin the process of changing your thinking and chang- ing your life by going to work on your self-concept.You start by developing a clear, positive, exciting, and inspiring self-ideal, consistent with the very best person you can imagine yourself becoming.You develop a positive self-image by imagining your- self performing at your very best in everything you do. Finally, you develop high and unshakable levels of self-esteem by loving and accepting yourself unconditionally as a valuable and worth- while person.



Most of your thoughts and your responses to the events and people of your life are determined by your basic premises. These are the ideas, beliefs, opinions, and conclusions you have come to as the re- sult of inputs and experiences starting in childhood.They constitute not only your self-concept, but also your philosophy of life. The more adamant and convinced you are of your basic premises, the more they predict and control everything you do, say, and feel.

If you believe yourself to be an excellent person, loaded with tal- ent and ability, friendly and popular, healthy and energetic, curious and creative, and destined to have a wonderful life, these basic premises will lead you to set goals, work hard, develop yourself, treat others well, bounce back from adversity, and ultimately suc- ceed. Nothing will be able to stop you in the long run.

It is not what happens to you in life that is important. It is only how you react to what happens. It doesn’t matter where you’re coming from, either. All that really matters is where you are going. And where you are going is limited only by your own imagination. And since your imagination is unlimited, your future is unlimited as well. These are the basic premises and beliefs you need to fulfill your potential.


Unfortunately, there are several myths that we accept as we grow up that can sabotage our hopes for success, joy, and fulfillment later in life. Let’s look at these self-limiting beliefs one at a time.

The first and worst is summarized in the feeling, “I’m not good enough.”This is the basic premise that causes feelings of inferiority and inadequacy.We assume that other people are better than we are just because, at the moment, they are doing better than we are. We feel that they must be worth more than us. Therefore, we must be worth less than them. This feeling of worthlessness sits deep in the psyche and causes us to sell ourselves short. We settle for less than we are truly capable of. Rather than to fail at a new goal, we don’t set it in the first place.

The correct basic premise for you to develop, or belief for you to

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have, is that not only are you good enough, but you have the ability to be excellent in any area that is important to you.You have unlim- ited potential to be, do, and have more than you have ever achieved up to now. As William Shakespeare said in The Tempest, “What’s past is prologue.” Whatever you have accomplished in the past is only a hint of what you can do in the future.


The most powerful words in your vocabulary are the words that you say to yourself and believe.Your self-talk, your inner dialogue, deter- mines 95 percent of your emotions.When you talk to yourself, your subconscious mind accepts these words as commands. It then ad- justs your behavior, your self-image, and your body language to fit a pattern consistent with those words.

From now on, talk to yourself only in terms of what you want to be and do. Refuse to say anything about yourself that you do not sincerely desire to be true. Repeat the powerful, positive words, “I can do it!” over and over. Prior to any event of importance, repeat the words, “I like myself!” Say, “I’m the best! I’m the best! I’m the best!” again and again like you really mean it.Then, stand up straight and strong, put a confident smile on your face, and do the very best of which you are capable. Soon it will become a habit.


As the result of previous destructive criticism, people accept an- other myth, or self-limiting belief. It is that they don’t really be- lieve that they deserve to be successful. This deep inner feeling of undeservingness is quite common among those of us who started off with very little in life, or who came from families that had little money when we were growing up. It can also be caused by people who told us at a young age that to be poor is virtuous but to be rich is sinful.

If you have grown up feeling undeserving of good things, for any reason, and you do achieve success in your field, you may experi- ence what is called the “imposter syndrome.”You will feel that you are an imposter in your success, and that you are going to be found


out. No matter how successful you become as the result of your hard work, you will have a nagging fear that it will all be taken away from you.

If you feel like an imposter, you will often feel guilty for achiev- ing greater success than others. To escape these feelings of guilt, many people engage in self-sabotage. They eat too much, drink too much, take dope, ignore their families, engage in unpredictable be- haviors, and often throw their money away in extravagant living and unwise investments.They feel deep down inside that they don’t de- serve their success. As a result, they often drive it away.


The truth is that you deserve everything you can rightfully earn by doing an excellent job, and producing or distributing products or services that improve people’s lives and work. In a market society such as ours, all transactions are voluntary. People buy something only if they feel that they are going to be better off as a result.You can therefore be successful in the long run only by providing peo- ple with the things they want to improve their lives and work.The more and better you serve other people, the more you both de- serve and earn.

The word “deserve” comes from the two Latin words, “de –

” which means “from” and “servire” which means “to serve.” There- fore, the word “deserve” means “from service.” The people who do the best in our society, with few exceptions, are those who are serv- ing other people better than someone else.Your whole focus in your career should be on serving other people better. Then you will de- serve every dollar you earn.

Abraham Lincoln once said, “The very best way to help the poor is not to become one of them.” In our society, the more finan- cially successful you are, the more taxes you are likely to pay.These taxes help pay for the schools, hospitals, roads, welfare, Medicare, military expenditures, and all the important things that our society offers.You can be proud to be financially successful. By making a lot of money, you make a significant contribution to lots of people.You do well for yourself by doing well for others.

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Repeat the words, “I deserve every penny I earn as the result of serving others with the products and services they need to improve their lives. I am proud of my success.”


You are a thoroughly good person.You are honest, decent, truthful, and hardworking.You treat other people with courtesy, respect, and warmth. You are dedicated to your family, friends, and your company.You are strong, confident, and responsible.You are knowledgeable, intelligent, and experienced.You are important not only to the people closest to you, but also to your community.You were born for a special reason, and you have a great destiny to fulfill.You are an excellent person in every way.

The preceding paragraph is a statement of your real personality and character. It may not be true for you 100 percent of the time, but it is a good general description of who you really are inside, and where you are going with your life. When you unconditionally ac- cept that you are a truly valuable and worthwhile person, you will express it in everything you say and do. Over time, it will become true for you.Your ideal will become your reality.

Repeat to yourself, “I like myself and l love my life. I am a thor- oughly good person in every way, and I always do my very best at anything I attempt


Over an hour S£x video tape played in Lagos court – Latest News

Proceedings in an Ikeja High Court took an unusual dimension on Monday when an excerpt of a s3x video tape between a married father of three and his ex-lover was played in the courtroom.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the father of three, Peter Omokaro, is an ex-banker, while his ex-lover, Titilayo Nosa-Igiebor, is a businesswoman.

Omokaro who is in his early 60s had sued Nosa-Igiebor, 33, over her non-payment of an alleged N15 million loan he gave her during their relationship.

The tape was played when Mr Victor Okpara, counsel to Nosa-Igiebor, led her in evidence.

The video which played for more than an hour showed Omokaro and Nosa-Igiebor lying in bed in a hotel room, agreeing to the terms of the `loan’ before engaging in s3xual intercourse.

Omokaro could be heard in the video, before signing the agreement, saying: “I hope I am not signing my death warrant.”

He was also heard telling Nosa-Igiebor that he had no intention of getting the loan back.

The defendant’s counsel tendered a copy of the loan agreement in evidence.

The counsel told the court that Clause Five of the agreement exempted Nosa-Igiebor from repaying the alleged loan because of their s3xual relationship.

NAN reports that Clause Five of the agreement, which pertains to waiver of rights, states: “Peter forever waives all rights to loan payback, forfeiting totally loan given if Titilayo agrees to and has s3xual intercourse with Peter.”

Earlier in her evidence, the defendant told the court that Omokaro never gave her the N15 million although he promised to give her without collecting it back.

The businesswoman testified that Omokaro became vindictive after their relationship turned sour.

She told the court that the ex-banker intended to punish her for the soured relationship by taking her to court.

While being cross-examined by Mr Jerry Omoregbe, counsel to Omokaro, the defendant testified that besides being Omokaro’s lover, she had a business relationship with him through her company, Tilimanjaro Nig. Ltd. and Nichole Integrated Ltd. (Omokaro’s company).

“Tilimanjaro was my first company. I had no prior experience; I was still setting up at the time. I went to meet Peter, my boyfriend at the time, to assist me in giving my brother, Ahmed, money for aviation school.

“Peter, my boyfriend, said that he would give me the money as a gift and that we should draft an agreement so that my brother could see that it was serious and take his schooling serious.

“He invited me to the hotel as shown in the video. He agreed that I should make the agreement, and I drafted the agreement in my letterhead. The agreement was between Peter Imafidon Omokaro and Titilayo Nosa-Igiebor.

“The friendly loan was never given to me. That agreement was signed on May 15, 2011, which was a Tuesday. He said he would pay the money into my brother’s account on Thursday but he never did,” she said.

Justice Raliatu Adebiyi adjourned the case until Feb. 20, 2019, for adoption of written addresses.

NAN reports that Omokaro had accused Nosa-Igiebor of stealing his Toyota Venza 2010 model with registration number CT370FKJ valued at N2 million as well as N106 million.

Nosa-Igiebor was initially arraigned before an Igbosere Magistrates’ Court in Lagos in April 2012 and remanded at the Kirikiri Prisons following her failure to meet her bail conditions.

The former lovers later agreed to settle their dispute out of court, with Nosa-Igiebor returning the car and other property given to her by Omokaro during their relationship.

However, Omokaro instituted a civil suit against Nosa-Igiebor before an Ikeja High Court following her failure to refund the alleged N15 million loan.

He had submitted that he gave the defendant the loan as a business partner and not a lover.

The ex-banker also told the court that the loan was not a gift but meant to be paid back. (NAN)


Sudan helicopter crash kills government officials World News

A helicopter has crashed in eastern Sudan, killing a state governor and at least four other officials.

The helicopter exploded in flames after it hit a communications tower as it tried to land in the remote Al-Qadarif state, BBC reported.

No official reason has yet been given for the crash.

A number of people were taken to hospital for treatment, state media reported, without giving more details.

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Among the dead are Al-Qadarif governor Mirghani Saleh, his cabinet chief, the local police chief, and agriculture minister, the reports added.
Sudan’s military fleet includes many aircraft bought from the former Soviet Union.

Eight people were injured in October when two of its planes collided on the runway at the airport in the capital, Khartoum.

In September, two pilots were killed when a military jet crashed near Omdurman, Khartoum’s twin city.


Mexican crowned 68th Miss World World News

Miss Mexico Vanessa Ponce de Leon, during the 68th Miss World final prize giving ceremony [Reuters]

A Mexican model turned volunteer was crowned Miss World at a glitzy event on the tropical Chinese island of Hainan on Saturday.

Miss Mexico Vanessa Ponce de Leon, 26, has a degree in international business, volunteers for ‘Migrantes en el Camino’ and is on the board of directors of a rehab center for girls, according to the Miss World website.

She was crowned as the 68th Miss World by last year’s winner, Manushi Chhillar of India, in the coastal city of Sanya on Saturday.

The colourful ceremony included US group Sister Sledge performing their 1979 disco anthem We Are Family.

Speaking backstage following her win, Vanessa said: ‘I can’t believe it, I really can’t believe it, and I think all the girls deserved it. I am proud to represent all of them.

‘I will do as much as I can in the time I have got. Thank you so much, everyone.”

Vanessa is a speaker for the National Youth Institute as well as working as a model and a presenter.

According to Daily-Mail, she has also qualified as an open water scuba diver and she also enjoys playing volleyball, painting and ultimate Frisbee.

Her favourite TV show is ‘Downton Abbey’ and her personal motto is, ‘We all need each other.’

This year’s runner-up was Thailand’s Nicolene Pichapa Limsnukan, a 20-year-old studying business administration.

Miss Belarus Maria Vasilevich, Miss Jamaica Khadijah Robinson and Miss Uganda Quiin Abenakyo were also among the final five.

It is the eighth time the Miss World final has been held in Sanya, which first hosted the pageant in 2003.

At the finals three years ago controversy erupted as officials in Hong Kong stopped Miss Canada, Anastasia Lin, from boarding a plane bound for Sanya, telling her she would not receive a visa.

Miss Mexico Vanessa Ponce de Leon (left) reacts after being named Miss World, with runner-up Miss Thailand Nicolene Pichapa Limsnukan [AFP]

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The 25-year old actress claimed the decision was due to her stance on China’s human rights record, including its persecution of Falun Gong, a Chinese spiritual group of which she is a practitioner.

The Miss World pageant, created in Britain by Eric Morley in 1951, is the oldest surviving major international beauty contest.

According to Rappler, Vanessa has previously said of her humanitarian work: ‘I am a woman who is always searching for a purpose.

‘I believe in love, art and caring for others. I am a hard worker, a daydreamer and I am always trying to put a smile on the faces of the people I meet.

‘I had been a model for the past couple of years, but two years ago, I gave the profession up.

Contestants perform on stage during the 68th Miss World final.

‘It’s a completely different business. I work with people with disabilities or girls that are going through rehab, and I just love it. Everyone should try volunteering at least once in their life. They will be very surprised.’


Nick Ayers rejects offer as White House chief of staff World News

Nick Ayers, currently chief of staff for United States Vice President Mike Pence, has declined an offer by President Donald Trump to become his chief of staff.

The refusal on Sunday comes days after Trump said his current chief of staff, John Kelly, would leave the office in January.

Ayers had allegedly been in talks for months to take the job but was unable to agree on terms with Trump, according to Reuters news agency.

Instead, Ayers announced on Twitter he would be leaving the White House soon, apparently to return to his home state of Georgia where he would work “to advance the cause”.

The chief of staff is one of the most important roles in the White House.

Following Ayers’ announcement, Trump said on Twitter he is “in the process of interviewing some really great people” for the position and that he will soon make a decision regarding his new chief of staff.

It is unclear who has been interviewed by Trump, but sources told Reuters Trump would make an announcement before the end of the year.

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Kelly is the latest in a long list of people who have left the White House.

The former general has been credited with imposing order on a chaotic West Wing after his arrival in June 2017, from his post as homeland security secretary.

But his iron first also alienated some longtime Trump allies, and he grew increasingly isolated, with a gradually diminished role in recent months.

Trump had discussed replacing Kelly on multiple occasions, including following the negative publicity surrounding his handling of domestic violence accusations against then-White House staff secretary Rob Porter.

The constant staff upheaval at all levels has left Trump’s White House struggling to advance his policies.